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RE: Subs causing asshole behavior
10-06-2014 9:00 AM
You need to understand that being an alpha by definition makes you an asshole. You impose your vision and desires on those around you. Learning to do that in a charming and less abrasive manner is an acquired skill.
When my dad was admitted to the hospital (bacterial pneumonia) he lingered in ER for roughly 6 hours before I finally got tweaked and sought out the attending...who calmly informed me it was his call and he was still undecided. I looked at him squarely, stuck my hand out and while shaking it addressed him by his 1st name and told him I completely understood but hoped he recognized that if my Dad was discharged from the ER and had any complication he'd be in front of Wednesdays medical review board. Less then 5 minutes later they were admitting my dad. My dad was in his last week of radiation treatment and I made it clear I wanted him to stay till the course of treatment was over. This involved a stay over the upcoming weekend and while the nurses were all on my side the resident and others were not.
I got a call on Thursday that my dad was being discharged that evening. I went down and asked to speak to the resident in charge of his case that day and she had her little speech all worked up. About 90 seconds in I asked a question and got a polite non answer and she immediately "rebooted" and began to start regurgitating her original monologue. I looked at her stuck my hand out and again while shaking her hand simply told her "wrong answer" and informed her that her services were no longer required and directed her to ask the ranking on duty hospital administrator to come see me. She looked at me and said no, I asked her why not? She told me only the attending had that authority. Great, send him over.
15 minutes later the attending came in and said "I understand you have some issues with our care?" Not at all, I think your care is excellent and your practice of medicine is outstanding, however I have some issues with your conduct of business. Obviously this took him off of his medical high ground and placed us on more even footing, 5 minutes later he whole heartedly agreed that what was actually best for my dad (and the hospital) was that he stayed until the completion of his course of radiation treatment.
When I checked back in the next day the duty nurse (who I had become friends with) rolled her eyes and asked me what exactly I had done. My dads chart had a prominent note underlined on bottom of page 1 (no changes without permission and consent of son from Texas). Beyond that about once every ten minutes someone would bellow out "wrong answer".
Apparently the nursing staff got a big chuckle out of my handing of the resident in question and passed it on as gossip at shift change. The real challenge is in learning to never raise your voice, curse, act in a rude or condescending manner while taking complete control of both the conversation and the other persons personal space.
It's not that your mind is being "screwed up", simply that you haven't evolved the behavioral tools to effectively implement the shift in mindset. Command presence is a learned skill for most of us and not easily acquired.
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RE: Subs causing asshole behavior
10-06-2014 12:20 PM
(10-06-2014 9:00 AM)DWR Wrote: You need to understand that being an alpha by definition makes you an asshole. You impose your vision and desires on those around you. Learning to do that in a charming and less abrasive manner is an acquired skill.
When my dad was admitted to the hospital (bacterial pneumonia) he lingered in ER for roughly 6 hours before I finally got tweaked and sought out the attending...who calmly informed me it was his call and he was still undecided. I looked at him squarely, stuck my hand out and while shaking it addressed him by his 1st name and told him I completely understood but hoped he recognized that if my Dad was discharged from the ER and had any complication he'd be in front of Wednesdays medical review board. Less then 5 minutes later they were admitting my dad. My dad was in his last week of radiation treatment and I made it clear I wanted him to stay till the course of treatment was over. This involved a stay over the upcoming weekend and while the nurses were all on my side the resident and others were not.
I got a call on Thursday that my dad was being discharged that evening. I went down and asked to speak to the resident in charge of his case that day and she had her little speech all worked up. About 90 seconds in I asked a question and got a polite non answer and she immediately "rebooted" and began to start regurgitating her original monologue. I looked at her stuck my hand out and again while shaking her hand simply told her "wrong answer" and informed her that her services were no longer required and directed her to ask the ranking on duty hospital administrator to come see me. She looked at me and said no, I asked her why not? She told me only the attending had that authority. Great, send him over.
15 minutes later the attending came in and said "I understand you have some issues with our care?" Not at all, I think your care is excellent and your practice of medicine is outstanding, however I have some issues with your conduct of business. Obviously this took him off of his medical high ground and placed us on more even footing, 5 minutes later he whole heartedly agreed that what was actually best for my dad (and the hospital) was that he stayed until the completion of his course of radiation treatment.
When I checked back in the next day the duty nurse (who I had become friends with) rolled her eyes and asked me what exactly I had done. My dads chart had a prominent note underlined on bottom of page 1 (no changes without permission and consent of son from Texas). Beyond that about once every ten minutes someone would bellow out "wrong answer".
Apparently the nursing staff got a big chuckle out of my handing of the resident in question and passed it on as gossip at shift change. The real challenge is in learning to never raise your voice, curse, act in a rude or condescending manner while taking complete control of both the conversation and the other persons personal space.
It's not that your mind is being "screwed up", simply that you haven't evolved the behavioral tools to effectively implement the shift in mindset. Command presence is a learned skill for most of us and not easily acquired.
Yes I understand your point. You seem like a man who has a lot of years of experience being alpha in nature.. Perhaps an alpha leader in your own circle (your father ?) helped drive and guide you to the skills needed to control such power.. These subs give the power of an alphas mind but without the skills the behavior is reflected poorly and not accepted as positive.
That is why I wonder if alpha subs will necessarily help people who aren't being guided by alpha behavior -- skills?
Without the skills, new behavioral patterns are just rage/asshole behavior. The makers of these subs don't tell you that.. They tell you just by listening to the subs like become the alpha male, stop being mr nice, you will automatically become the new role. There's a lot more that goes into this creation of a new you than just being brainwashed by subliminals.
Am I reading you correctly?
(This post was last modified: 10-06-2014 12:23 PM by dsouza.)
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